Different Forms of Communication
It seems that very one have different form of communicating
based on who they’re speaking to. When we’re speaking to our family members we
tend to be more relaxed than we would when speaking to business partners.
When I’m with my family my voice and my chosen words are
more relaxed and casual. When I’m in my family home with my siblings and a
parent or two, and/or aunts, uncles, and cousins, I seem to go into a different
existence. Everyone is talking and most of the time at the same time, but when
someone is telling a story everyone gets quiet and listens until someone hears
the perfect time to give their input to the story. They are either adding to
the story or trying to explain themselves if that story is about them and most
of the time something silly they did or said. I always have the best time and
loads of laughter in this type of communication. It’s alright and well accepted
to interrupt the person talking. Once, I even noticed that my vernacular also
gets different if I am in conversations with my Louisiana family my Louisiana French
Creole tong comes out. I was never aware that this happens until one year I
actually caught myself doing it and all I could do is give a little chuckle and
just accept who I am.
When I’m speaking casually with friends I am also in a relaxed
conversation and are free to say just about anything I would like to say. With
this group there is a level of respect as we tend to take turns speaking and is
quiet and listening when someone else is speaking. I am also happy as well as
relaxed in conversations with this group and the laughter continues.
My communication with colleagues tend to be more business
minded mainly because we are always speaking of what to do, or how to handle
certain situations concerning making things better to help a child. Although we
are friends, communication in this group is on a level of business minded
therefore our language and chosen words are more formal.
In my opinion communication on any level with any person or
group of people should always be practiced with respect for the subject being
spoken of and of those you’re in conversations with. The main reason for these
interactions is to learn about something rather it’s good or bad, positive or
negative. With the newly learned information we should be seeking how to help
and aid one another depending on the need and each person’s ability to render support.
Darlene, it seems that your family has a great relationship, and a mutual understanding. I like that you all are okay with one interrupting while having a conversation. I think at some point we all do that just to make sure we can follow along with what is being said. My sister does not like when she is interrupted so she will set up the seen by giving all the details that she thinks one will ask a question about before she is finished. It is really funny because my brother will ask a question anyway to throw her off. (It is all done in fun). I have to agree with you that communication on all levels should be practiced with respect.
ReplyDeleteYes Penny, it's all in great fun that's why your brother would ask your sister a question any way and this is the same type of atmosphere I'm speaking of. We're not just interrupting to be disrespectful to each other, we listen, but I'm only capturing that part when it gets so exciting that everyone is together and talking that everyone just talks and laugh at once ;-D so much fun.
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Darlene,
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I too can relate to feeling like a different existence when with family. I am the youngest of the family and even though I am now in my early thirties and working on my Master’s degree they still can treat me like the “baby”. One time at a get together I used the phrase cognitive ability. My brother looks at me and says “Wow, that’s a big word how do you know it?” They still have a hard time realizing that I am a professional in the field of early childhood and not just their little sister. So, I too tend to communicate differently with my family than I would colleagues, families, or students.
Yes Debi, I can totally understand that, although I'm not the youngest my family tend to treat me like I'm the baby because I'm the smallest I guess, so I feel your statement.
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Darlene,
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your post. I agree that we change the way we communicate based on the person or persons we are talking to. I believe we are more relaxed with family, more caring with children, maybe a little hostile with rude people. I think the tone in our voice changes as well with dealing with different people. Great post!